Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Why I Am The Greatest Dad In The World #sarcasm

Why Your Kids May Not Think That Your Sarcasm Is Funny


 About a month ago a learned that children do not understand sarcasm because their minds have not developed past the point where they only view things literally.     I also just read a fascinating study on sarcasm out of the University of Manitoba which determined that children can understand sarcasm at the age of six but doesn't really develop the ability to be able to detect it until sometime past the age of 10.    I actually have some friends that are well into their 40's that don't get sarcasm so it obviously varies as to what age sarcasm will be understood. 

This information made be feel like the most inept parent in the world.    I beat myself up constantly by telling myself that I should have already known this information (I don't know how I should have but i just should have).  Now it all makes sense.    When I have parenting time with my twin daughters, I am very loving and laid-back with them.    My voice is never raised and there has only been one incident to date where a Time Out was called for.     

The curious thing about all of this was that when my girls were with their mother they would tell her that I was 'mean' and just 'said mean things to them' all the time.    Their mother, let's call her Satan (ha ha like the sarcasm?) has a field day with this and just goes on and  on as to how I am a bad father how my own kids hate me, blah blah blah, etc etc.   For those of you that have read my other posts might know a little bit about the possible Parental Alienation situation so there just may be more of something going on here but then again, there might not be. 

Maybe the girls just thought that me calling them 'stinky', what I intended to be an endearing nickname, and 'comedians', another endearing nickname I called  them because they are just so darn funny and just naturally say the silliest things, to be just downright mean and hurtful.    I mean little five year old girls should be sweet lovely little princesses that ride unicorns from cloud to cloud not fetid little boys that play in the mud with bugs and worms.     Also, I don't think that they knew what a comedian really was so they just took it as a derogatory term. 

The moral of the story is that I am glad that I learned that children are very black and white literal thinkers (see PS)  until the age of six when they first start to grasp the concept of sarcasm.    I have started communicating with my daughters in a more literal fashion since I heard this information and I have noticed that they have been happier.    If you are a sarcastic and speak to your children with sarcasm you can obviously continue to do so, you don't really have to stop if you don't want to.   However, if you try it you might like the results. 

Until we read again, 

Jaxon

p.s.    If you have read anything about the Law of Attraction (LOA)   over the past few years you may know the general concept(s).    Did you know that they say that the subconscious takes in information in a very black and white fashion very similar to a five year old.     There is a TON of information out there regarding the LOA.   If you are interested in learning more I would recommend you visit the following link because this fellow explains everything in a  more straight forward fashion than most of his counterparts. 

Tuesday, August 12, 2014

Is It Lucky To See A Grand Slam?

Life Is Meant To Be A Success And You Are To Attract And Manifest What You Want




My only concern about having two girls was that they were probably not going to be into sports to the extent which I was.   I know, I know fickle but this is what I was thinking about at the time.     My daughters were born in a Thursday in September and were in the hospital for a few days so when we woke up that Sunday morning I had the girls watch NFL Football which just happens to be my favourite sport and explained the game to them.    My master plan was that they would like something that they had been watching since they were three days old. 

Between the ages of one and two the girls really loved watching American football with me.    They would sit there in their onesies and even go as far as to put both arms up and say "touchdown" every time the team that I was rooting for did something favorable.  This was a proud moment for me. 

Since their mom and I broke up my daughters aged and went from liking to watch sports with me to totally disliking it.  

In the last two years my daughters and I somehow have watched two baseball games together, which is a curious choice because even though I respect baseball it has to be one of my least favourite spectator games.    The first game we watched was one of the ALCS games between the Detroit Tigers and Boston Red Sox.   My reasoning for watching this game was out of my severe dislike for the Red Sox.    At the bottom of the 8th inning David "Big Papi" Ortiz drilled a grand slam to all but guarantee a Boston win.     Both of my girls were laughing hysterically as I yelled at the screen while all this was happening.   Those two love to laugh at me when my team loses, in a fun way of course. 

Fast forward to last Saturday.   We were at Chase Field in downtown Phoenix to watch the local Arizona Diamondbacks play my home state Colorado Rockies.     Let me just say that the girls WERE NOT happy about being at the game because they would have much rather have been playing with their friends or anything else.    Eventually they warmed up to the game and then got really excited when they realized that my team was losing to the local team who they decided to root for.

Then it happened.    Bottom of the 8th, David Peralta of the Arizona Diamondbacks belted a grand slam over the right field wall.    The girls went crazy and I just sat there in disbelief, kind of like when the Seattle Seahawks beat the Denver Broncos in this years Super Bowl. 

Here are the four similarities that I noticed from both ball games that the girls and I watched

  1. Both Games Had A Grand Slam 
  2. In The Eighth Inning
  3. Hit By A Fellow Name David
  4. Against The Team I Was Rooting For
There have been several conversations with baseball fans since the event and although all of them said they had seen a grand slam on a televised game somewhere along the line but no one ever said that they had seen a live grand slam.   One fellow went on to tell me that he had been to over 100 MLB games and has not witnessed a grand slam. 

Now is this a lucky omen?   I don't know what the omen would be but the facts just make me wonder.   Or maybe all of this was coincidence.   Everyone is entitled to their own opinion.     One thing that I have not yet decided is weather or not I want to watch another baseball game with my kids because I kinda want to keep this record in tact but then again if the exact same thing happened, I could write off this phenomenon as a coincidence. 

Until we read again, 

Jaxon

p.s.  Do things just happen to us or do we create our own reality?   Visit the following LINK to learn more. 


Monday, August 11, 2014

Jesus Wasn't The Only Person Who Walks On Water

If you spend your divorce fighting so intensely...you may get through it, but the scars will be with you forever


This is one of those blog posts where I write about what I learned going through my divorce that can help you or someone you know if they are currently going through a similar situation. 

Regardless of your religious background you may have heard the story of how Jesus walked across the Sea of Galilee during a fierce storm.      Besides the fellow in the Cars music video for the song "Magic" we have not heard or seen of anyone else "walk across the water."    Until now. 

If you are a male going through a divorce or separation with children involved your soon-to-be ex walks on water.   A lesson I wish I would have learned three years ago.    What I mean by this is that regardless of what she does to set you off you are always  going to be perceived as in the wrong in the eyes of your children, the authorities or anyone on her side.    This being said make sure that you always take the high road during your interactions with her.    You may be lucky enough to not be in a high-conflict situation and if so I am happy for you.   However, if you fall into the other majority feel free to take heed to my counsel.

Here is a short story that proves exactly what I am referring to. 

One weekday parenting time after my ex blatantly told me via text that she was not going to allow me to pick up the girls from their in-home day care provider during my parenting time because she "didn't feel like having me seen them".   Attempting to call her bluff and more importantly see my daughters,  I arrived to the day care provider who would not answer the door.   After I rang twice I telephoned the authorities to report her interference with the court ordered parenting time. 

A couple police officers arrived to the scene within minutes spoke to me for a while, realized that I didn't call to cause any trouble but just wanted to spend some court ordered time with my children.    The officers telephoned my ex and asked her to come down to the day care in order to release the girls into my custody because she had explicitly told the day care provider not to release my daughters to me that day. 

When my ex wife appeared on the scene another police officer from the same jurisdiction pulled up at around the same time.    I didn't know the fellow so I am not judging but he was about 5'4" and had a bad case of Napoleon complex.   The new officer who didn't even acknowledge the first two officers that were present had a brief quiet conversation with my ex off to the side and then literally got in my face and attempted to bawl me out for 'wasting his time' because these matters were to go through family court not the police.    Amidst his self righteous rant I calmly asked him if he had children and why he was verbally attacking me before asking to hear my side of the story.    This made the little guy calm down enough to obtain the name and number of his Seargent so that I could lodge an official complaint over his uncalled for unprofessional behaviours. 

After all this ruckus the other officers that I was speaking to earlier escorted my four year old partially confused, partially scared and partially excited daughters out from day care while all the other kids looked out the window to see what was going on.    The oldest of the twins asked her mom, who was still there why the police were there to which her mother said that something about us all being in a 'meeting.'   

At that point in would have been so easy to correct her and hurl stones at my ex in front of the girls by calling her a liar and a few other choice words and then privately with the girls during my parenting time to 'prove to the girls how (insert adjective here) their mother really is'.   Howver,  I chose to be the better person and avoid all that because at the end of the day, what mattered in that situation was that my daughters got to see me during the court appointed parenting time. 

      
Moral of the story is that if your future ex wife is acting hostile, crazy, or just out of sorts TAKE THE HIGH ROAD.    Focus on your breathing, keep your cool and document your experience in the event that you ever need to use it for evidence down the road.     Your divorce isn't about your failed relationship; it's about the existing and future relationship with your children and that is the only thing that you should be worried about right now. 

Until we read again, 

Jaxon

p.s.   *For more resource on a healthy divorce feel free to visit attorney and author's Karen Covy's website at www.karencovy.com
p.p.s.   Also, I am not an attorney or a therapist but I do have some real-world experience with a high conflict divorce so if you feel like you or someone you know would benefit from chatting with someone with an outside perspective to give you some insight on your current situation than just drop me a quick line via jaxonxw@gmail.com because I would love to help in any way possible. 

Thursday, August 7, 2014

How Not To Negotiate 100% Of The Time

Everyone Wants A GoPro Camera and Everyone Will Pay Full Price!



I decided to test the market  for a brand new GoPro Hero3+ Silver Edition that I came across by way of sales contest only because I knew that if I kept the camera I would not use it to its full capacity. .   I did my research and found out that even the deep discounted online retailers were selling the GoPro Hero3+ Silver Edition for a minimum of $299 brand new and $280 used in addition to shipping and handling where applicable. 

The item was listed on Craigslist for $280 obo which I felt was a fair price based on my research and the fact that there was not a warranty or exchange policy.  

Here was my actual ad from Craigslist. Thank you for dealing with the curious backdrop which is a result of the copy-paste job.

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Life's Adventures Are Meant To Last Forever

Capture Them With One Of The Best Cameras On The Market!

(NEW In Box) 

For a limited time you can own a BRAND NEW GoPro Hero3+: Silver Edition for the price of a lightly used GoPro Hero3: Silver Edition. This camera is priced to sell. Call Now!!!

Whether you are an outdoor enthusiast, new parent, like to catch life's finest moments in the best way possible, etc this camera can help you capture these moments and then some. Item is BRAND NEW, wrapped in box and comes with tripod. 

Here are some other features that you will benefit from with your new GoPro HERO3+ : Silver Edition:

* 15% smaller and lighter housing (waterproof to 131'/40m)
* 2x faster image processor enables 1080p60 and 720p120 fps video
* Enhanced low-light performance
* 30% longer battery life

* Professional 1080p 30 fps, 960p 48 fps, and 720p 60 fps and WVGA 240 fps video capture
* 11MP photo capture with 10 frames per second burst
* Wi-Fi built-in, and compatible with Wi-Fi remote (sold separately) and GoPro App (free)
* 197-Feet / 60m Waterproof Housing
* Basic mounts and hardware included for attaching to helmets, gear, and more

This camera can be purchased for approximately at retail for $299 (+ Tax + Shipping where applicable) or you can get it today for $280 obo. Act Now....... Your Permanent Adventures Awaits.....Priced To Sell


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There were plenty of responses to my advert.   There was a lot of interest.  There were some folks that were actually looking for a different edition of the GoPro, some folks that didn't want to drive to my general area of town to meet and pick up the camera and a large number people that couldn't afford  or wanted to pay the fair price for the camera.   Eventually the perfect buyer came to me and purchased the camera for full asking price.

Of all the dealings there was one person texting from a California code that really stuck out, we will call this person Cali going forward.   There were some things that I did like about the interaction and other things that I didn't like especially the subtle negotiation faux pas that were exhibited by Cali,  the potential buyer.    Here is the actual text interaction which starts after I informed the Cali that the camera was still available for sale::


What are your thoughts?   Did you think the buyer (yellow) do a good job negotiating?   I'll tell you this, they  didn't buy the camera  for $250 cash before they left AZ.  

What The Potential Buyer Did Well

  • At 0914am Cali opened the negotiation off with a $200 offer.   This is a positive because in a negotiation one always wants to ask for more than one expects to get just because you might. 
  • At 0101pm Cali created a sense of urgency by saying that they were only going to be available for about an hour.   This is a positive because when dealing with a desperate buyer that really needs the money this one piece of information could have been just what causes the seller to accept an offer.
  

What The Potential Buyer Could Have Done Better

  • At 0914am Cali started our interaction with a low ball offer of $200.   The reason that this was a low ball offer was because of the value of the item which could have been quickly researched online prior to the interaction.    This is a potential negative in a negotiation because one must not put themselves in a position where they insult the potential buyer because if the buyer has something that you really want they may walk away. 
  • At 0101pm Cali told me that they were leaving AZ in an hour.    This is a potential negative because the value of the item was clearly spelled out at 0917am meaning that trying to narrow down the negotiation by creating a sense of scarcity on Cali's part probably wasn't going to work here unless there was a full price offer or better on the table. 
  • At 0101pm Cali told me that they could pay no more than 250 cash.    This is a potential negative because the other party in a negotiation doesn't care about how you can't pay a fair price for an item because a business negotiation is usually not about charity it's about creating win-win.   If Cali only had $250 budgeted to purchase a camera then they should have been looking for a camera in a difference price point. 
  • At 0101pm Cali also implied that they wanted to look at the camera to see if it works.   Hmmmmm, interesting.   Obviously Cali missed the part about the camera being brand new in it's original housing. Granted a new item may not be fully functional 100% of the time but that is a risk that you take when you buy an item for $20 under the asking price.   Making outrageous demands in a negotiation is a potential negative because you can alienate the buyer especially if they have other options or are not in a hurry.
Negotiations are a beautiful thing because now two are the same and there is usually at least one interesting thing that happens that just makes you wonder.   Share your thoughts\experiences below. 

Until we read again, 

Jaxon


Tuesday, August 5, 2014

Parental Alienation On The First Day Of Kindergarten

How To Cut Through Parental Alienation Like A Chainsaw Through A Shark Storm*




It was the first day of the 2011 NFL football season.   I woke up on my brother's couch, I had gone out of town to spend the weekend with him and some friends.   After a quick shower I decided to grab a beverage at a ubiquitous coffee shoppe because my brother was still asleep and there was at least an hour or so before the start of the first game. 

The gentleman in front of me in the coffee shoppe line was carrying a beautiful squirmy baby girl who was probably between one and two years old.    As soon as this little girl looked at me her face lit up and she automatically started cooing, giggling and reaching for me,   Under normal circumstances I would have just smiled and started a conversation with her father but today was completely different. 

There I was walking outside the parking lot wiping away robust tears of sorrow.    When the little girl reached for me in the coffee shoppe I just completely lost it emotionally and started crying like a child who just found out that their little puppy dog got run over by a truck and broke it's back in multiple places.

The reason that I wept in public was because that was the day that my twin daughters turned three and I was legally unable to see them because of an Order of Protection my then wife had placed on me while we were separated.   The order prevented me from coming within a certain radius of her which is why I just decided to go out of town.   I  fruitlessly attempted to reach out to a few of her relatives asking them to send me photographs of my daughters or even have them telephone me to at least sing them
Happy Birthday".   Long story to short I didn't hear from my girls for at least three weeks after their birthday and never heard back from any of their mother's relatives. 

FAST FORWARD TO LAST SUNDAY

I was watching Sharknado #2 while trying to coordinate dropping my daughters off on the first day of kindergarten that Monday morning with their mother.    The daughters mother and I divorced soon after their third birthday.  She had the Order of Protection removed and I was even invited to the girls "Meet The Teacher" night the week prior so I didn't find it odd to ask if we could coordinate both being there for the twins being dropped off to school the next day.    In hindsight, I should have just showed up without a heads up because I did anyway. 

After two unanswered e-mails and a few unanswered texts I received the following string of messages late Sunday evening: 


"Interesting" I thought, here's another event that my daughter's other parent did not want me to be a part of a milestone event.   Long story short I just went to the girls school the next morning.   Against my best hindsight judgement I attempted to phone and text their mother a few times to see where they were at but did not get any response. 

Eventually, I found my daughters.   Wished them well, told them how much fun they were going to have and took some Pulitzer Prize winning photographs of them before their first day of kindergarten.  

The moral of the story (aka.   How To Cut Through Parental Alienation Like A Chainsaw Through A Shark Storm):

  • Don't Always Assume That The Opposing Parent Is Attempting To Alienate Your Child(ren) Regardless of Past History:  Yes, I know that my daughter's mother was trying to push the girls away from me by making it illegal for me to attend their third birthday party as she confessed under oath in divorce court.  However, I wasn't sure that this is what she was doing for their first day of kindergarten. It may have been what she was doing but I didn't know that.                             Negative assumptions have a way of just causing worthless anger which could lead to a bad toxic environment.   Now I could have gotten  super upset about Sunday night's text and sent a really angry, vile hateful written message via e-mail or text giving her a piece of my mind.                                     Or I could have showed up to the school before the first day and bawled by ex out in front of my children and all other kids, parents and teachers and negatively affect EVERYONEs day, not just my daughters.    In summary, just focus on controlling yourself and your relationship with your child(ren) because there is nothing that you can do to change or control the behaviour of the opposing parent whether or not they are exhibiting alienating actions. 
  • Focus Only On What You Can Do And Take The High Road:   The first time someone told me about the "high road" concept I thought that they had fallen off their rocker mainly because I used to act as an emotional linebacker who was highly proficient of traveling the low road.  So much so that I prided myself in acting in this manner and re-telling tales in a braggadocios fashion to whoever wanted to or I thought was listening.   In a nutshell when you act from the high road you do what is best for the situation and you focus on yourself and what you can control.    I could have just not shown up for my daughter's first day of kindergarten and then proceed to tell my children that I wasn't there because their mom wouldn't let me go or that I tried to call but since their mother didn't answer I didn't know where to go so I just didn't go.    In summary; focus on what's important and what you can do.   Excluding some extreme situations, which unfortunately do exist to a degree, you do not need the alienating\opposing parent's permission to be a good parent for your child. 
Until we read again, 

Jaxon

p.s.   I am not a therapist nor do I claim to be an expert in Parental Alienation.   One thing I do claim is three plus years of experience in that type  of environment and have picked up a handful of insights over that time frame.   Feel free to reach out to me if you are going through a similar situation and want to talk to someone who has gone through a similar situation and possibly could help. >> jaxonxw@gmail.com

Thursday, July 24, 2014

Why The Person That Cut You Off In Traffic Today Awesome....

....Okay, Maybe Not That Awesome But Keep Reading



It was very hot in Phoenix today, heck it's after 0900 pm PST and it is still 111 degrees!   In related news, tomorrow is Friday, ESPN Sports Center will get a lot more exciting in about a month, and water is wet.    

One of my favourite things to do in any weather is go to a bookstore and read segments of random books.   The last time I did this I read a book about leadership, sociology and the different stages of groups\individual behaviours and development.    The stages discussed were:   

  1. Life Sucks
  2. My Life Sucks
  3. I'm\We're Great and You're Not
  4. We're Great and Life Is Great : Everything Is Awesome

In this post I will talk about how I have personally gone through all of these stages in my own life along with some public examples where applicable, what stage is my personal favourite and why that person that cut you off in traffic this morning may really not be all that bad.

I was in stage one "Life Sucks"  from about the fifth grade to high school.   My dad retired young when I was in first grade and he moved the entire family from Denver where I had a lot of diverse friends to Iowa where for some reason I could not make any friends.   The weather in Iowa was interesting in that the winters were beyond freezing and frequently involved subzero days, 20+ foot snow drifts and snow days which meant that we would have to go to school until mid to late June shortening the summer break.   My parents divorced when I was 13, my siblings and I moved to Tucson, Arizona. 

Arizona is where I transitioned into the other levels, let's start with stage two "My Life Sucks".   I was getting used to Arizona but I liked the change and the weather was definitely void of snow days.   My first day of school, which was a Junior High School literally smack dab in the middle of an Indian Reservation, was less than favorable.    When walking to class after lunch some  gangster fellow pushed me down to the ground  and stood over me.   He kept asking me what I "claimed" because apparently I was wearing the colours of a rival gang.   Lucky for me some fellow came up to the aggressor and told him that I just moved from "Idaho" and that I wasn't a threat.   Funny sub story, the gangster that wanted to beat me up and I became friends and I quickly moved into stage three. 

I spent most of my life in the "I'm\Were Great and  Your Not Stage" as a matter a fact I just transitioned out of this stage earlier this year.     Basically all of my friends were cool but people that I didn't know, didn't hang out in my clique or even didn't root for the same sports teams that I fancied were "worthless losers" or worse.  This stage is very popular in the music business amongst rappers who have beef with each other and fans that get into vapid conversations about how Rapper A is not as good as Rapper B.   It embarrasses me to even share how long I was in this stage but it's worth it because I do want to share that these first three stages are the most negative, toxic and unhealthy place to live from.   If you are in  one of these stages now I invite you to join me in stage four ASAP.   

Stage four "We're Great and Life Is Great", going off of the rapper example in the prior example both Rapper A and Rapper B can be cool.   I used to really side with one team in sports and get crazily upset if the team that I was rooting for lost and sometimes even get into verbal arguments with folks rooting for the opposing squad.    This year's Super Bowl was embarrassingly the first time in my life that I didn't feel that way.    Being a Denver Broncos fan is was hard to watch the Seattle Seahawks dismantle the Broncos and end up winning by a score of 79-4 but it wasn't hard congratulating Seahawks fans and the actual team for having a great season and a great performance in the Super Bowl. 

 This stage also reminds me of a cartoon-like movie  about self-locking building bricks (which is very fitting because I believe that children naturally start life out in this stage) and the following thought which was shared with me earlier today: 

"...the truth remains that you could not be who you now are, if others were not who they now are. 

Including those people you sometimes wish were not who they now are." 

What a profound thought.   If things have not turned out precisely the way they did you would not be reading this right now and traveling down the path you are traveling down.   The guy that cut you off this morning may have set of a random unseen series of events that led you to that one really great thing that happened to you. 
 
The moral of the story is that we are all one in the same and you can live in any of the stages discussed in this post but it is highly recommended to go and remain in stage four if you want a more powerful and empowering experience in life. 

Until we read again, 

Jaxon

p.s.    Excited for the book which is coming out Late 2014

Friday, July 18, 2014

Obligatory Entitlement

What Do You Feel Obligated To Do?


The other day I was having a conversation with my friend Karen and we both arrived to the conclusion that we are not comfortable with the feeling of being obligated to do anything.    For those of you who have read any of my prior posts know my thoughts on "Should-Ing" , feel free to read by clicking on the following link.  Basically I think it's human nature to not want to feel like they should be doing something that they don't feel like doing and how it's not healthy to feel like things "should" be any different than they currently are. 

This leads to entitlement.    Now, I could write about the principle of entitlement or I can direct you to this fantastic well-written blog post I read by a woman by the name of  Jani Franck from the UK entitled "On Entitlement and the Stoics".   The entire post is great but pay close attention to her lists, her stance on relationships and the awesome thoughts of the stoic philosophers. 

Happy reading, and until next time please don't do anything that you feel "obligated" to do, unless you are truly obligated to do it. 

Until we read again, 

Jaxon

p.s.    Thank you for reading this post out of pure un-obligation. 
p.p.s.   "Today Was A Good Day" by Ice Cube just came over my music-mix.    Very fitting, very fitting. 


Friday, July 11, 2014

All Things Are Awesome & I Don't Particularly Even Like Legos

A Phenomenal Paradigm Shift That All But Guarantees Increased Happiness



When I was in my late teens I read Steven Covey's wonderful best seller The Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People for the first time.   The book has been read several times since and every time I peruse its contents I derive something different from the words on the pages.     One thing that really stuck out during the first reading of the book was regarding paradigms and paradigm shifts. 

Covey tells the story of being on a bus when a fellow who seemed really nonchalant and out of sorts boards with four unruly children who are displaying highly disruptive behaviours.   Feeling a little peeved at the father's lack of attention towards his children Covey asks the father if he could perhaps talk to his children about their disruptive behaviours, which are visibly having a negative effect on Covey and some of the other passengers, and perhaps have the children sit quietly for the remainder of the trip.  The father apologies for his lack of discipline and tells Covey that they just came from the hospital where the children's mother and his wife just passed away and how he guesses that him and his children just don't know how to act at that moment.   Covey went on to say  how this information caused him to switch his mind-set, or paradigm, about the situation  from a state of mild annoyance to one of helpfulness and sympathy.  

Isn't it amazing how just one minor tweak in our mind-set can have a tremendous impact on our perceptions.    Earlier today I was drawn to a particular paradigm that may cause you and me to have an instant increase in satisfaction.    Here's the catch, you won't be reading about it now.   However, you will learn all about it after I field test this belief for a few days to a week. 

Make it an excellent week!

Until we read again, 

Jaxon

p.s.   BONUS CONTENT Enjoy! 

Monday, July 7, 2014

A Vortex, Upward Spiral, And Secret Behind The Secret

Remember 2007?    It was a great year in many ways and the year that the movie phenomenon The Secret was released.  Believe it or not I watched it a couple times, I manifested a few parking spots.     Actually looking back seven years later I manifested everything that I had secretly hoped for since I first watched the movie and even before then.

The Secret Behind The Secret As I See It Is:

The universe will bring you what you wish for using the path of least resistance or the easiest way possible.    So keep all thoughts above the boards. 

BONUS SECRET:   If you want to emerge where you currently are in life you have to be grateful and appreciative of where you currently are or else you will never raise above current circumstances. 

Here is to a great remainder of your month.

Until we read again,

Jaxon


Thursday, July 3, 2014

How To Miss Your Kids

Divorce is an interesting thing.   You are now mortal enemies with someone you loved dearly (in some cases).   It's even more different if there are children involved.   All of a sudden your children who you were able to see anytime you weren't busy are only available to hang out certain times of the month.

If you,  like me, miss your kids like nothing you have ever experienced when they are not with you what do you do?  You could ask the opposing parent for additional parenting time but if your situation is anything like mine you would have a better chance growing taller overnight.

So what do you do?  You can ask for more parenting time through the courts and you may or may not get it but what do you do during the interim?  Thought you would never ask....

This is what I've done.  My twin daughters are turning six this year and since they turned three I opened an email account for them and I'll write them periodic messages.   This is a way to feel an emotional connection with your children by writing them now in a perceived future.   Make sure you remember the e-mail password and above all else keep it classy.   Divorce is between you and your ex and should have nothing to do with your children.   This email journaling should just be all about you and your child's relationship.

Until we read again,

Jaxon

Water Cooler Intentions

The Road To __________ Is Paved With Intentions

Who doesn't love a little water cooler chatter?   This past Tuesday I overheard two of my colleagues wishing one another a good third quarter.    One of the two was proudly professing how he had a great third quarter in 2013 and that was just a fluke and how this year was going to be terrible.

Fast forward to yesterday.   I was talking to a fellow before a meeting about how his name was in a raffle to win an all expenses paid trip for two to an awesome destination.  The guy proceeded to tell me how he never wins anything so he's not going to hold his breath.  I sincerely and directly told him something along the lines of how his luck is going to change and told him that I would send him some positive winning vibes.

About an hour later my pal ran up to me with the biggest most sincere smile on his face carrying a large novelty ticket.  "I Won, I Won" he exclaimed.   We shared a celebratory moment before proceeding with our day.

Moral of the story is I'm not saying that we can predict the future all I'm saying is that if our intentions may shape our destination why not wish for what we want versus what we don't want?    Try it, you might like it.

Until we read again,

Jaxon

p.s. 

Wednesday, July 2, 2014

"Your Wish Is My Command"


Congratulations!    You are the proud recipient of a genie's lamp.    Here's the catch.    You don't get three wishes.    You get an infinite number of wishes.    Yes, not pulling your chain, you can ask for whatever you want.    We've all watched programs in the past where people find a genie's lamp, ask for three wishes and get something completely different than what you thought you asked for.    So my advice to you is to ask carefully. 

Let's revisit those genie lamp shows that I just talked about.    Did the wish recipients really get what they asked for or did the genie make a mistake?       Rhetorical question that you can think about for a while.     My stance is that we always get what we ask for. 

So the moral of the story is to ASK CAREFULLY. 

Until we read again, 

Jaxon



Monday, June 30, 2014

The Gap Between Perceived Reality & What You Expect

Do You Wanna Read A Dad Blog?

I found myself watching one of my favourite movies "Wolf Of Wall Street" for the fourth time earlier today.     The movie is beyond interesting and you know when you watch a movie multiple times you notice different things?    Today I noticed how anger may be caused when the gap between what we expect to happen and what actually happens or perceived reality is farther apart than what we hope for. 

The scene that made me notice this was towards the end of the movie after Jordan got indited and was talking about the details with his wife Naomi aka Duchess in their bedroom.    Jordan had this impression that his wife was going to be supportive while he was serving his prison sentence by staying with him and allowing him contact with his children.      When Naomi asked Jordan for a divorce, told him that she didn't love him and made him aware that she already consulted with an attorney: Jordan started yelling, slapped Naomi, ripped open the couch cushions, started snorting a pile of cocaine (after being clean for some time), punched Naomi in the stomach, woke his daughter Skylar and took her out of her bed, drove through a closing garage door and rammed his car into a wall...............   Arguably he did this all because of the gap between what he expected to happen over the next few years and the fear over what really might happen while he was imprisoned. 

What 'gaps' are currently making you angry?   Can you see where a 'gap' made you upset in your past?   Unfortunately I can and can fortunately see where a future with detached expectations can keep a lot of this useless energy out of our lives. 

What are your thoughts?   Comment below. 

Until we read again, 

Jaxon


Sunday, June 29, 2014

Water, Self-Esteem & That Mistake You Made

Beating yourself up over mistakes and judging your every thought\action will bankrupt your self-esteem & make you miserable. 
-- Brenden Dilley: Author


It is said that the body is anywhere from 60% - 75% water.    A lot of discussion has gone on around Dr. Massaru Emoto and his famous water study.    The gist of his experiment is he filled a number of beakers with rice and water and spoke or didn't speak certain words into the different beakers every day for a period of 30 days and then studied the results of the water and rice.    If you are not familiar with this experiment you can do a quick Internet search or you can view a specific study here as it relates to treating children. 

If the findings of this experiment is true how do you think your self-talk is effecting your physical\spiritual body?    Are you constantly berating yourself for being an imperfect person and not being able to go back in time to change something(s) that you did that may have created a better present moment or are you treating yourself more kindly?    Or are you telling yourself, we all make mistakes there are no perfect people in the world?    For all I know what has happened could be the best thing that could have happened to me in order to transform me into the person that I need to become.     As of now the perfect solution for my situation exists and I will learn about it when the time is right. 

Words are things and bring us the results in our lives.   Use your words wisely.   Love yourself and realize that you did what you did, are where you are and focus on getting better and better every day in every way.   This Too Shall Pass

Until we read again, 

Jaxon







Thursday, June 26, 2014

You Should Go Write A Book

Just experienced a different and interesting experience thus fueling my different and interesting mood which is fuel for this blog post which I warn you may be all across the board in a good way.


Less recently but more so in our younger years I used to always follow up the stories of one of my best friends of close to 20 years with a "you should write a book."   The reason I would say this was because his southern upbringing led to a lot of interesting stories which were in my opinion designed to entertain. 

In one of the earlier posts I mentioned a book that  I will be releasing before the end of 2014.   My life and especially my last few years have inspired me to take my advice and write a book, a book that I hope will do more than just entertain but also teach, inspire and cause the reader to do more and feel motivated and propelled to move towards their desired life.   The rest of the post will be a teaser about two topics which will be covered in the book. 

SOMETIMES A LOSS IS A WIN

Not going to go too much into this topic because I have written about the topic in both of my blogs.   The main thing here is whether your "loss" occurred in the past or if you are going through it now there may just be some good hidden in all the perceived dismal reality of the situation.   There may not even be any "bad" in the experience in hindsight.     Remember to take the wise advice of Shakespeare and remember that "There Is Nothing Good Or Bad But Thinking Makes It So."     Either today if there is still time or tomorrow I invite you to grab a clean piece of paper and a fresh writing utensil; or your smart phone, tablet, or laptop if you are living in the 21st century, I kid.     On top of the page write the problem that you are dealing with and fill out the entire page with what could be good about your situation.  See below for an example as would be written by US Men's Soccer Forward Clint Dempsey after the United States lost to Germany this morning by a score of 1-nil. 

problem >> We (US Men's Soccer Team) Lost To Germany In The World Cup
question >>  What Is Or Could Be Good About This?

  1. We advance to the next round of the World Cup playing Belgium on Tuesday
  2. We almost scored at the end of the game, which gives us some confidence as  a team
  3. We played a very good Germany team pretty well also giving us confidence
  4. Germany is so good that they exposed some of our weaknesses which will only help us get better in the long run
  5. ect.....ect...

DEFYING GRAVITY

You ever experience water running down the side of your glass versus pouring perfectly into it's desired destination? Well, this has something to do with surface tension and little to nothing to do with good luck or positive thinking.   You see, there are specific natural laws that govern the universe and apply to everyone regardless of circumstances.    If a cute three month old puppy were to accidentally run off a 30 storey balcony of a high rise apartment there is a near 100% chance that she will fall to her death.    Now this may not be fair or pleasant but there are some laws that are black and white and regardless of our perceived abilities we must work in conjunction with them as we are not able to defy gravity. 

The morals of today's post are to:
  • Stay Tuned For My First Book Coming In Late 2014
  • Sometimes A Loss Is A Win
  • Be In Alignment With The Forces of Nature
Until we read again, 

Jaxon

p.s.  Are you a writer or inspiring writer?
p.p.s.   Feel free to plug your literary works and/or ideas in the COMMENTS section below because we would LOVE to read all about it. 

Wednesday, June 25, 2014

Continually Encourage Creativity In Your Children



A huge smile came over my face when I saw this advert on youtube before I watched my music video.     I liked the video so much that I didn't even choose "SkipAd" when I had the chance. 

Can't help but think what a wonderful world ours would be if we encouraged our children to be continually creative, not only as children but throughout their life. 

Check out the video by CLICKING HERE.   Enjoy. 

Until we read again, 

Jaxon

p.s.   This is not an advert for the particular organization sponsoring this video as I am not even too sure as to what it is.    However, I suggest that you watch the video and experience the joy of this message. 

Why Forgiveness Matters

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FORGIVNESS


For the sake of discussion say that you owned a nice functional barn in the middle of the country for whatever reason you would want to own a barn for.     The only thing wrong with this barn is that it is rat ridden.     You decide that you do not want to hire an exterminator so you drive into town to the closest general store and purchase the perfect amount of industrial strength rat poison that would be more than enough to take care of your situation.   You pack the poison in your trunk or back of your truck and drive back to the country. 

You pull up right in front of your barn, take the rat poison out of your vehicle and you start using your hands to consume as much rat poison as possible in an attempt to eradicate all of the rats that are residing in your barn.    You are an intelligent person so let me as you a few questions:


  • What do you think is going to happen  to the rats?
  • What do you think is going to happen to you?
  • What do you think happens to you on the inside when you hold onto anger and resentment towards someone for a past transgression?
  • What do you think happens to the person who has not received your forgiveness?
  • Do you like rhetorical questions?

Three Forgiving Steps To A Better Life

  1. Forgive Yourself:  Maybe I am just speaking for myself here but we have all done some severely fucked up shit in our day.   (Sorry for the language, but I REALLY wanted to get a point across).    Some things we did on purpose, other things that we did on accident but all things that we wish we wouldn't have done.    See yourself with kind eyes and realize that you are only human, forget after you forgive. 
  1. Forgive Others:  If there is anyone that you need to forgive in your life; a parent, an ex, a friend, that jagoff in traffic today (for all you road ragers out there...ha ha) etc?    If not, congrats........    However, if someone came to mind, then go ahead and forgive them now............go ahead, the rest of us will wait for you................Welcome Back!!!!!    Don't you feel better?    If you haven't actually did the exercise either DO IT NOW or make sure you do it before you fall asleep tonight.     To forgive is divine and to err is human.    If you are not perfect you do not have to expect anyone else to be. 
  1. Aim For A 0.00001% Daily Improvement:  You know that one perfect person that you know that can do no wrong?    Maybe you work with them, maybe you are friends with them, maybe they are a relative, maybe it's someone you run into on an almost daily basis.     They look perfect, eat perfect, have perfect relationships, dress perfect and have nothing but perfect things happen to them?    Well I have news for you, things may not be exactly what they seem to this person.    Everyone has some stuff that they are dealing with and some area or areas in which they are trying to improve.     If you compare yourself with the most successful person you know or know of then you will automatically feel bad.    Instead focus on being a slightly better version of you yesterday as you were today and watch the results flow in....   

The moral of today's post is that holding on to resentment and anger and refusing to forgive another person is akin to a person consuming rat poison and expecting the rat to keel over. 


Until we read again, 

Jaxon

p.s.    Thank you for forgiving me on misspelling the word "Forgiveness"  in today's photo caption, I appreciate it.   


Tuesday, June 24, 2014

Death On El Mero Dia De San Juan

This morning around 6:00 am  I telephoned my Ma to wish her a happy Dia De San Juan.  A tradition that started ever since the mid- 90's when we just moved to Tucson from the Mid-west.   One of my mom's favourite singers,  Antonio Aguilar, has a song about June 24th \ Dia De San Juan which has always reminds me of her. 

Some Say Divorce Is Worse Than Death

WARNING::  THE REMAINDER OF THIS POST IS PRETTY DARK  AS IT BROACHES SOME TABOO TOPICS.   READ AT YOUR OWN RISK

It has been said that one of the most traumatic things that a person can experience is the unexpected discovery of a dead body.   This happened to me as a child growing up on a Mid-Western farm.  My brother and I were raising two kittens that my mom had found in a barn, to this day I have yet to see kittens as beautiful as these two.

One morning after letting the kittens sleep in their box in the barn versus their normal place in the house my brother and I discovered two lifeless kittens lying in their homes covered in their own blood.

We spent the remainder of the day and most of the next week crying and I didn't own a cat again until I was in my 20's.

The Big D (Not Dallas) 


Three years ago to this day a somewhat similar event happened to me.  Now, before you think that it is weird that I recall this particular day in such vivid detail then I invite you to re-read the first paragraph about my Mom and the song. 

I pulled into the driveway of my home where my then wife was standing next to her Mom's car shaking vigorously and crying uncontrollably while trying to smoke a cigarette.  Long story short she told me that her and the girls moved out and she would be back at a future time to pick-up the remainder of her items.  Anything I said after that was meaningless,  her decision had been made and she was not turning back.

Shock and disbelief overcame me as I walked through a house that was vacant compared to how I had left it that day before work.   A few broken toys were strewn here and when I made it to my daughter's nursery I stood with my hand on the doorknob for a good minute or so which seemed like at eternity before I decided to walk in.....

The carpet was covered in random debris and was in desperate need of vacuuming.  Nails stuck out of the walls where appropriately themed photographs and pictures of the girls once hung.  A few empty hangers hung in the closet and reality set in when I saw the carpet indentations from where there cribs once were.

I was too shocked to cry or have any other strong outward emotion.   All I could think about was numbing the pain with a few cold ones that I went and picked up from the local grocer.   I consumed drink after drink while staring at a near empty home which was no longer filled with the sounds the joy and the love of my twin then two year old daughters....

Fast Forward To Today


Over the past three years a lot has happened to me that may or may not had happened had I not experienced what I just wrote.   The moral of the story is that as non-traditional as it sounds to most folks everything happens for a reason and if it was meant to be then it would have been.

Now,  why do they say divorce is worse than death?   In death the funeral is a sad time but usually just showcases the positive high points of a person's life.  In divorce all the bad awful things about the other person is usually showcased and over analyzed on a frequent basis and one could constantly be reminded of this person when they interact regarding the children or for other reasons

It's not easy, but recall that better experiences await you as soon as you move on.  If you are going through a similar situation than the one I went through,  my heart reaches out to you and I suggest that you get help if you need it.  A support system of friends and family is well and good but sometimes an outside perspective is what you need.

Until we read again,

Jaxon

p.s.  

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Monday, June 23, 2014

"Daddy, I Used To Love You But Then...."

".....Mommy Told Me All About You" 

What a hurtful thing to hear from your own child, especially on Father's Day weekend.    This is what one of my daughters randomly told me as we were hanging out. 

What Is Parental Alienation Syndrome?

When you are done reading this post you are welcome to do a online search for "Parental Alienation Syndrome" or PAS and you will find a lot of information from websites, to videos to posts such as this.     In a nutshell this is where one parent referred to as the "Alienator" does whatever is in their power to destroy a child's relationship  with the "Targeted Parent" after the demise of the relationship. 

Les Linet MD has a great YouTube page on the topic, here is a link to one of the best videos I have seen on the subject.

Are You A Victim of PAS?

If your former partner exhibits any of the behaviours discussed in the above video you just may be a victim of PAS. 

Here are two examples of PAS from my personal experience.   This first message was sent to me by the girls mother on Father's day just moments after we got off of the telephone after discussing that day's pick up time. 


Text Sent By Mother On Father's Day

Unsolicited Text From Mother's Boyfriend

This second message is out of order and sent from my daughter's mother's boyfriend a few days after I called the police with an Interference With Judicial Proceedings complaint because my ex and her boyfriend decided that the girls weren't going to hang out with me during my court-ordered parenting time because they didn't feel like it.    What's curious about this fellow is that he abandoned his own son out of state and has refused to have a conversation with me about his role in my daughters lives for three years and counting.



What To Do If You're A Victim Of PAS?

THE FOLLOWING ADVICE IS STRICTLY MY OPINION BASED ON MY EXPERIENCE WITH THE SUBJECT.    THIS IS NOT TO BE TAKEN AS LEGAL OR MEDICAL ADVICE AND IT IS SUGGESTED THAT YOU SEEK THE ASSISTANCE OF A TRAINED MENTAL HEALTH OR LEGAL PROFESSION WHERE APPLICABLE. 

One of my favourite quotes from philosopher Fredrich Nietzsche reads:

"Battle Not With Monsters, Least Ye Become A Monster, and If You Stare Into The Abyss, the Abyss Gazes Also Into You" 

This is one thing that I didn't do and would recommend that anyone going through follow the above advice from Mr. Nietzsche.    Don't try to figure out why your former partner is acting a certain way, disallowing visitation or just acting errantly and irrationally.    Just keep a clear head, focus on what you can do to display your love as a parent and then engage the assistance of the necessary resources where appropriate. 

Easier said than done, I know.   However, this  may lend more weight than most of the generic advice that you will hear from well-meaning family, friends and acquaintances because this is coming from someone who has lived and is currently living this and is telling you precisely how he wishes he would have acted had he had the opportunity to go back and do it all over.
Until we read again, 

Jaxon

p.s.   I hope this post helps, reach out to me if you are the victim of Parental Alienation or share this with someone who is going through a similar situation.
p.p.s.   You are also welcomed and encouraged to share your experiences below because your story may just help inspire another reader or awaken something within yourself.

Saturday, June 21, 2014

Something Unexpected And Fantastic Is Happening To You Today

Blogpost Forthcoming

It Could Be Worse>> Shakespeare & The Reading Rainbow

There Is Nothing Good Or Bad But Thinking Makes It So

-William Shakespeare


There are two main things that I remember about PBS's Reading Rainbow:

  1. We used to watch full episodes in class when I was in the second grade 
  2. I thought it was fascinating that LeVar Burton played the dude with funky specs on Star Trek: The Next Generation
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Despite watching several episodes of Reading Rainbow over time there is only one portion of one episode that comes to mind.   In this episode they read a book about a grandfather, his grandchildren and the book centered on  the grandfather's favourite catch phrase "it could be worse."     Basically the book was about several misadventures suffered by the grandchildren and the parents to which the grandfather would always respond with a  "it could be worse."   The moral of the books story was a childhood summation of William Shakespeare's famous quotation "There Is Nothing Good Or Bad But Thinking Makes It So". 

 What a great philosophy and way to live life.    How might you think differently if anytime something 'bad' happened to you you just told yourself "it could be worse?"    Also, can you imagine if you responded to anything and everything that happened to you with a "that's good" regardless of the event?    If the event is so unfavorable you can even follow up with your "that's good" comment with the question "what could be good about this"  and you will immediately start to think things differently.

The moral of today's story is there is no such thing and good events or bad events there are just events.   Now, there are positive, negative and neutral interpretations but it is up to us as individuals as to how we want to view the world and navigate throughout the situations in your life. 

Until we read again, 

Jaxon

p.s.    Were you a Reading Rainbow fan?   Share your favourite memories....            

Thursday, June 19, 2014

Paralysis By Analysis Or A Poor Self-Image

Why Some Folks Have More Success In Life?


At one of my old jobs I used to hang out with a fellow who used to tell me about his brother who went to multiple Tony Robbins seminars, spent a ton of time listening to self-help audios and reading self-help books yet he still lived with his parents well into his 30's and was serially unemployed.   One might think that someone with all this knowledge would be farther along in life. 

All of you Simpson's fans out there may remember an episode entitled "Homer's Enemy" in which a character by the name of Frank Grimes was introduced.    Frank Grimes lived in a small studio apartment above a bowling alley and below an other and despite having a degree in Nuclear Physics.   Frank Grimes was described as a person who "had to struggle for everything he ever got", even his job alongside Homer Simpson in Sector 7 G, which is a very low qualified job for those of you not familiar with the show. 

If you have not watched the episode a brief plot his Frank Grimes was jealous of Homer Simpson's life and perceived affluence despite being a lazy oaf because this was in direct violation of his philosophy that a person has to work hard for everything in life.      Frank Grimes, or Grimy as Homer called him,  went crazy and after an emotional breakdown accidentally killed himself via electrocution at the end of the episode because he just was so jealous of Homer Simpson and the life he led.     You can see a photo of Frank Grimes below. 

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Do you know someone like this?    Someone who is unusually smart and/or works very hard but has little to nothing to show for it?   Or maybe you know someone on the other extreme, someone of below or average intelligence who moves through life effortlessly and always seems to be comfortable and has an outward appearance of success?

Isn't this interesting how this works?    Keeping in mind that these instances are usually the exception, not the rule because there are plenty of smart, hard-working folks out there that are quite successful and there are plenty of unintelligent lazy folks living in poverty.    Doesn't it make you wonder how this extreme comes to pass?

The fellow I described in the first paragraph can fall into the category of "paralysis by analysis" where he knows what to do but his fear prevents himself from moving forward and doing anything.    This form of procrastination is causing this fellow to attend seminar after seminar, listen to tape after tape and read book after book in a fruitless search for the one thing that will bring instant success but won't take any action toward his goals and passions.  

Frank Grimes can be categorized as someone with an inaccurate self-image.    Someone who sees himself as someone who constantly has to struggle and work hard just to eek a minimal existence.    Things usually get worse for this type of person and rarely if ever gets better and they eventually live an entire life of quiet desperation. 

The moral of today's story is if you or someone  you know suffers from Paralysis by Analysis or Poor Self image I urge you to get help.   Not for my sake but for yours only because you are better than you think that you are, you are more than you think you are.   There are many outstanding resources out there that can help you.    If you want to wait you can write me and place a hold on my book which is coming out late 2014. 

Until we read again, 

Jaxon

p.s.   Quote of The Day::

 ‘The intelligent want self-control; children want candy.’

Wednesday, June 18, 2014

Another Life Lesson Inspired By The Movie "Frozen"

Why A Five Year Old Knows More About Goal Setting Than You Might

LET WHAT GO?

For the first time in months I can take my daughters to a shopping mall or a large store and not be constantly asked for a "Frozen" toy or trinket.  Maybe it's because it is because most stores are sold out of anything having to do with Frozen besides the DVD.    Maybe it's  because the girls have learned not to ask for anything unless there is a special occasion such as a holiday or birthday.   Or maybe it is because they already own any Frozen-Related item that they could ever want.      Regardless of the reason I am loving the result. 

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MAN ON A MISSION.

The last item that was purchased for the girls was a blonde wig of the movie's main character Elsa.    The item was pretty costly so I decided to pass on the purchase approximately five months ago when it first came up.    This an interesting thing happened a couple months later.     The fabulous law of Supply and Demand took hold and and all of a sudden the wig was no where to be found.    Now not only was my daughter wanting the item and consistently and persistently asking for it my male fatherly goal oriented mind took over and I was committed to finding the item and purchasing it for her. 

ONE NIGHT IT HAPPENED

As we were on the way to the shopping mall I phoned the store that would have had the item and wasn't surprised when I heard the spiel that all Frozen items were sold out, how they had a limited supply, etc.     When we got to the shopping mall my daughter insisted that we go to that particular store and I opted against it because I already knew that we would just be spinning our wheels but she won the discussion as most cute five-year old little girls do so we eventually went to the store. 

When we walked into the store I asked the nearest available associates to take me to their remaining selection of "Frozen" items and she walked us to a small pathetic section of the store that looked like the "winter section" at the Wandering Oaken's Trading Post and Sauna in the film.     "You Hoo" 

We quickly noticed that the wig was not available so one of my daughters stayed by my side while I engaged with some obligatory small-talk about the popularity of Frozen with the helpful associate and unbeknownst to me the daughter who wanted the wig wandered off.      

We were interrupted mid-sentence by my daughter screaming "Daddy Look What I Found!!!" and she was literally embracing and kissing the packaging in which the wig came in.   It was almost as though she pulled this thing out of thin air, she said that it was lodged in between a couple displays.     The cashier told us that they had a return about five minutes prior from a girl who had received multiple wigs from her relatives.      Talk about serendipity. 

The moral of today's story is to go over the five steps that my daughter unconsciously took to achieve her goal of owning an Elsa Wig. 

  1. Have a Clear Cut Objective>>   Have a clear cut target, in my daughters case it was an Elsa wig. 
  2. Positive Expectations >>      Despite external circumstances and the harsh effects of cause and effect my daughter still persistently and continuously asked for the object of her desire until she achieved it. 
  3. Engaged The Help Of Others >>   My little gal got me to buy into purchasing the wig for her to the point where I was spending my spare time trying to track down one of these wigs.    As a side note I even went as far as to obtain the number and call the Disney Stores at the theme parks to see if I can purchase and have the wig delivered.    Unfortunately they were sold out as well.  My daughter made it so I wanted to get her the wig almost as bad as she wanted to have it. 
  4. Detach From Outcome >>    "Let It Go" >>  Enough Said
  5. Persistence >>   Persistence pays
In his best-selling book Psycho Cybernetics Dr. Maxwell Maltz talks about how squirrels born in the spring instinctively starts to collect nuts for the winter in fall despite never having experienced a winter and how birds travel thousands of miles to migrate south for the winter and then back north again in the fall despite no high powered self-help courses in navigation or a state-of-the-art navigation system. 

Do you think that our children come pre-programmed with what they need to know in order to be successful in life and we and other adults unknowingly erode this ability over time?    Maybe maybe not.   You decide, COMMENT BELOW.

Until we read again, 

Jaxon

p.s.   POLL:   Will the summer help our children get over their maniacal obsession with the movie Frozen or will it only get stronger?    COMMENT BELOW.