You Should Go Write A Book

Just experienced a different and interesting experience thus fueling my different and interesting mood which is fuel for this blog post which I warn you may be all across the board in a good way.

Less recently but more so in our younger years I used to always follow up the stories of one of my best friends of close to 20 years with a "you should write a book."   The reason I would say this was because his southern upbringing led to a lot of interesting stories which were in my opinion designed to entertain. 

In one of the earlier posts I mentioned a book that  I will be releasing before the end of 2014.   My life and especially my last few years have inspired me to take my advice and write a book, a book that I hope will do more than just entertain but also teach, inspire and cause the reader to do more and feel motivated and propelled to move towards their desired life.   The rest of the post will be a teaser about two topics which will be covered in the book. 

SOMETIMES A LOSS IS A WIN

Not going to go too much into this topic because I have written about the topic in both of my blogs.   The main thing here is whether your "loss" occurred in the past or if you are going through it now there may just be some good hidden in all the perceived dismal reality of the situation.   There may not even be any "bad" in the experience in hindsight.     Remember to take the wise advice of Shakespeare and remember that "There Is Nothing Good Or Bad But Thinking Makes It So."     Either today if there is still time or tomorrow I invite you to grab a clean piece of paper and a fresh writing utensil; or your smart phone, tablet, or laptop if you are living in the 21st century, I kid.     On top of the page write the problem that you are dealing with and fill out the entire page with what could be good about your situation.  See below for an example as would be written by US Men's Soccer Forward Clint Dempsey after the United States lost to Germany this morning by a score of 1-nil. 

problem >> We (US Men's Soccer Team) Lost To Germany In The World Cup

question >>  What Is Or Could Be Good About This?

1. We advance to the next round of the World Cup playing Belgium on Tuesday
2. We almost scored at the end of the game, which gives us some confidence as  a team
3. We played a very good Germany team pretty well also giving us confidence
4. Germany is so good that they exposed some of our weaknesses which will only help us get better in the long run
5. ect.....ect...

DEFYING GRAVITY

You ever experience water running down the side of your glass versus pouring perfectly into it's desired destination? Well, this has something to do with surface tension and little to nothing to do with good luck or positive thinking.   You see, there are specific natural laws that govern the universe and apply to everyone regardless of circumstances.    If a cute three month old puppy were to accidentally run off a 30 storey balcony of a high rise apartment there is a near 100% chance that she will fall to her death.    Now this may not be fair or pleasant but there are some laws that are black and white and regardless of our perceived abilities we must work in conjunction with them as we are not able to defy gravity. 

The morals of today's post are to:

• Stay Tuned For My First Book Coming In Late 2014
• Sometimes A Loss Is A Win
• Be In Alignment With The Forces of Nature

Until we read again, 

Jaxon

p.s.  Are you a writer or inspiring writer?
p.p.s.   Feel free to plug your literary works and/or ideas in the COMMENTS section below because we would LOVE to read all about it. 

Why You Could Like Sports?

What Sports Have To Do With The Human Condition

 

 

 

 

Yesterday while watching the World Cup Match between the United States and Ghana I felt something kismet and spiritual 30 seconds into the game and then again at the 86th minute.    This was when the US scored it's two goals against their opponent Ghana.    The feeling that I felt was that of connectedness; an invisible connection with the folks in the room watching the game with me, the folks who gathered together to watch the game across the country, our brave men and women stationed in Afghanistan who were watching on CCTV, even to the US players celebrating on the field.   It was almost as though there was a red, white and blue invisible cord of pride, loyalty, elation, happiness, etc simultaneously connecting us all at that very moment in time.

 

Balderdash, you say?  

        Isn't it just a game?   

             Maybe maybe not.

 

Another interesting phenomenon with yesterday's game was the second goal scored by a 21 year old man named John Brooks.    Brooks was not even supposed to be in the game, he was only playing because he was the substitution for one of his injured teammates.  Brooks made a last minute decision to play for the United States over Germany because of his dual citizenship.   The most interesting thing about Brooks is that he said that he had a dream that he scored a header goal for the United States in the 80th minute of a soccer match in the World Cup.      If you ever watched or even remotely understand soccer,  you would know that goals are hard to come by because of the level of international competitiveness.     What was most magical about John Brooks goal is that it was a header goal which was scored in the 86th minute of yesterday's game.

 

 

Coincidence?   Did Brooks really dream about this or did this series of events just happen?  You decide.

 

Next time you don't understand someone's obsession with sports or a particular team,  realise that there may be something more at play.   

 

But then again,  maybe it's just a game....

 

Until we read again,

 

Jaxon

 

p.s.   Have a cool sports story that transcends time and space and gave you an inexplicable "good feeling"?   Have you ever been in a situation where you hugged a complete stranger, gave a random fan a high five or give someone a strong pat on the back causing him or her to spill their drink all in the name of subconscious sports celebration?   If so, feel free to share your story below, we would love to read what you have to share.  

 



Looking For Something You Can't Find?

Online Versus Organic Dating

Whether or not you are a Self-Sufficient Single Parent or just a Self-Sufficient Single, dating can be an interesting adventure.    Today's message is about the differences between online dating and organic dating and helping you find what might work best for you. 

PHYSICAL ATTRACTION

Online Dating >>   Solely based on looks.   If you are not someones particular "type" you may never get any interest from your ideal mate.     HOWEVER, if a person posts photographs that highlights their strengths and you have a good online and offline (telephone) dialogue you may just hit it off with this person before the first date. 

Organic Dating >>   Based off looks.    If you approach someone and you are not their "type" or are approached by someone who is not your type.   The interaction might end quickly and hopefully politely.   I have heard folks say that looks don't matter when you meet someone in person so long as you are having a great time and that may or may not be right. 

COMPATIBILITY

Online Dating >>   There are many sites out there that match folks based on compatible answers to questions, geographical areas and there are even websites for particular interest groups.     So in theory you may go into the experience knowing that you will at least like something about the other person.    However, ones persons definition of some answers may not be the same as your definition.    This is usually an easy way to find out whether or not your potential mate has children. 

Organic Dating>>    You may not know anything about this person and starting from scratch or maybe you meet at a concert or at an event that you both have a common interest in.   However, something as important as children or whether or not this person is obsessed with sports, such as the World Cup, may or may not come up until after you have completely fallen for this person. 

 INTENT

Online Dating>>   There are many sites that are known as "hook-up" sites, sites dedicated to someone who is looking to settle down with the one and live happily ever after to anything and everything in between.   So in theory it is easier to find someone looking for the same thing that you are looking for. 

Organic Dating>>  Intent probably won't come up unless you explicitly ask right off the bat, risking coming off as too desperate or can luck out by being serendipitiously matched with someone. 

So, in summary the best way to find your special someone is whatever method works best for you because both methods has it's pluses and minuses.    At the end of the day you have to ask yourself if you are with someone who is making you a better person when you are with them because that is a big key to your ultimate happiness. 

Until we read again, 

Jaxon

p.s.   Here's to an excellent week.   Something marvelous is happening to you now.  

p.p.s.   Thank you for reading this post, you are welcome to re-read, read the remainder of the blog,  comment and follow. 

What Lebron James and Peyton Manning Have In Common

Is This Really Happening Right Now?

While sitting poolside today, one of my daughters asked the following question, "Is This Really Happening Right Now."    I smiled at this curious question because how often are we in situations and we have to literally pinch ourselves because the moment that we are living is so surreal?   Maybe it was on a vacation, maybe it was that precise moment where you and that dream someone shared that first kiss....   However, this moment isn't always favorable. 

I'm sure when Lebron James was locked in a congratulatory embrace with winning Spurs head coach Greg Popovich he asked himself "Is This Really Happening Right Now."   Probably the same thing that Peyton Manning thought when he walked off Metlife Field in New Jersey after last years tragic Super Bowl loss.   I am a life-long Denver Broncos fan so let's never speak about that game again.  

In my humble opinion one interesting thing in sports than watching a team lose a major match-up because there are a lot more life-lessons in losing than in winning.    Don't get me wrong, there is magic and joy in winning that is unrivaled in many other life experiences however, we learn a lot more about ourselves and of life when we experience loss. 

We learn what we need to do better, we learn that life isn't always "fair" and more importantly we get more value out of our next win.    Because let's face it as one of my favorite bosses used to say "Winner's Win". 

Until we read again, 

Jaxon

p.s.   Let's end where we started.    Did you notice what Lebron and Peyton did almost immediately after losing their respective tournaments?    They congratulated the opponent.     This is a fantastic strategy because not only is it good sportsmanship it's also a way to make yourself immediately feel better by sending out good vibes to someone who is really happy.   

p.p.s.   Another thing about losing that you might want to remember is that your family and your true friends will always love you regardless.    

The World Cup, Karma & Your Favourite City That You've Never Been To

Did you watch the World Cup today?    WOW!     Literally got goosebumps every time I watched a goal being scored and the celebration thereafter.    Also I enjoyed listening to the radio broadcast of the game on the drive home, although it may have been better if Andres Cantor was calling the game.

Isn't it funny how people's energy effects us in various ways?

I know someone who states that anytime something bad or unfavorable happens to you that you are literally 'burning' off bad karma and once it's burned off that you are good for whatever you did to cause that karma.  One of my favourite Lil' Wayne lyrics is "what goes around comes around like a hula hoop, karma is a bitch so just make sure that bitch is beautiful."   I won't tell you what my second favorite Lil Wayne lyric is only because I may want to save it for another time.

The moral of today's post is put out good spiritual energy is  you want a good easy care free life.    This is not polly anna look through the world through rose coloured glassed balderdash either.   If you don't believe it you are welcome to give it a try and then comment on your results.

Until we read again,

Jaxon

p.s.   The favourite city that I have never been to would have to be Nacogdoches.   Why you ask?   Not really to sure.   But if you have ever been to or know anyone who has been to Nacogdoches or Stephen F Austin University leave me a comment!!!!!

p.p.s.   If you've ever down around Houston, head on Highway 59 and head up north to Nacogdoches

The Source Of Your Strong Feelings For Lebron James

Making It To The Top Versus Starting From The Top

Legendary wrestler and coach Dan Gable once said; " The Only Place You Start At The Top Is Digging A Hole."   What he meant by this is that in order to get good at anything one has to pay their dues and learn through action.  

Since today's blog is starting out pretty sport themed I invite you to think about all the athletes that competed in either today's US Open Golf Tournament, World Cup Soccer Match or Game Four of the NBA Finals and think about the work that each one of them had to have put in to perform on that stage at that level.

Sure the respective sport may come easier to some of these athletes than their counterparts but there was not one athlete that showed up today fresh off the street and say something along the lines of "Hey my name is  Spectaculator, I am a master _____ player."   Before suiting up for the game and putting up record figures.    I could go on and on about all the time they've spent practicing throughout their lives and the number of teams they've been on throughout the same time ect ect but I am sure you get the picture.

Another thought that the previous example brought up is that these respective athletes are playing their respective sports doing what they are most good at and passionate about.    Now, I don't know enough about Lebron James to know whether or not he is a good golfer or soccer (futbol, for my readers not in the states) player but we may not have any media coverage about good ol' King James if he did not decide to play basketball for the Miami Heat.

The third and final thought today is about the vast amounts of money that these athletes are making, and for what.    FOR PLAYING A GAME!!!!!!!!!!   Yes, and not just any game but a game that they LOVE!!!!! So in summary these mega millionaire athletes are entertaining the masses, playing a meaningless game that they love.

So the moral of today's story is work hard learning about and improving on what you love and do it so well that the market can't help but pay you what you are worth.

Until we read again,

Jaxon

p.s.   When you arrive to your chosen level of success you can say something along the lines of you started from rock bottom and now you are here where 'here' is the top

Where You Gonna Be In The Next 10 Years?

If you read yesterday's post you know that someone always has it better than you and someone always has it worse off than you do.    Such is life and that will never change.

Since father's day is right around the corner let's take some time to appreciate the man you call Dad.   Let's face different extremes.     Perhaps you have the perfect text book father that gave you wonderful advice, was there in your corner every step of the way and helped you rise to the highest levels of success in life.    The other extreme is maybe you never knew your father or he walked out of your life at a very early age.     Most of us have fathers that were somewhere in between.    Whatever end of the spectrum your Dad falls on just make sure that you take the time to think about what you appreciate about him and take the time to let him know this Sunday.      (For those of you in creative situations make sure that you think of creative ways to thank "dad".    Perhaps you don't know your Dad and your Mom is your "dad".   If you fall into that situation make sure you thank Mom for the dual parental role that she plays and has played in your life.)   Remember that regardless of your circumstances your Dad probably did the best that he knew how considering the circumstances,   so go easy on him.   =)

NOW, for all your Dad's out there HAPPY EARLY FATHERS DAY!!!!!     Only because it's not Sunday yet and I want your children to have the best upbringing possible I have a little exercise for you.     Think about a future time, say 10 years from now.    How do you want your kids to look at you at that point in time?  

We all are obviously going to have different answers but whatever your answer may be, make sure that you take a moment   close your eyes and visualize that version of you 10 years hence.     Go ahead, do this, I'll wait for you.......


[[   Insert Pleasant Hold Music Here  ]]

Welcome back, now rewind back to this very moment in time.    Grab a working pen and a clean piece of paper and start writing all of the things that you need to start doing right this very moment in order to become that future father.    What do you need to start doing and what do you need to stop doing?    

Congrats if you have an empty page in front of you and are on pace to becoming that father that you wish to become.   If you have a blank page because you didn't do the exercise then now is the time to  Go Back and re-read the previous paragraph before continuing to the next paragraph.  

Okay, now start going to work on your list.   Use your back from the future insight to become the father that your child(ren) deserve.

Until we read again,

Jaxon

p.s.   COMMENT if you like my post.    What do you appreciate about your Dad?   What do you appreciate about being a father?

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