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A Phenomenal Paradigm Shift That All But Guarantees Increased Happiness

When I was in my late teens I read Steven Covey's wonderful best seller The Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People for the first time.   The book has been read several times since and every time I peruse its contents I derive something different from the words on the pages.     One thing that really stuck out during the first reading of the book was regarding paradigms and paradigm shifts. 

Covey tells the story of being on a bus when a fellow who seemed really nonchalant and out of sorts boards with four unruly children who are displaying highly disruptive behaviours.   Feeling a little peeved at the father's lack of attention towards his children Covey asks the father if he could perhaps talk to his children about their disruptive behaviours, which are visibly having a negative effect on Covey and some of the other passengers, and perhaps have the children sit quietly for the remainder of the trip.  The father apologies for his lack of discipline and tells Covey that they just came from the hospital where the children's mother and his wife just passed away and how he guesses that him and his children just don't know how to act at that moment.   Covey went on to say  how this information caused him to switch his mind-set, or paradigm, about the situation  from a state of mild annoyance to one of helpfulness and sympathy.  

Isn't it amazing how just one minor tweak in our mind-set can have a tremendous impact on our perceptions.    Earlier today I was drawn to a particular paradigm that may cause you and me to have an instant increase in satisfaction.    Here's the catch, you won't be reading about it now.   However, you will learn all about it after I field test this belief for a few days to a week. 

Make it an excellent week!

Until we read again, 

Jaxon

p.s.   BONUS CONTENT Enjoy! 

A Vortex, Upward Spiral, And Secret Behind The Secret

Remember 2007?    It was a great year in many ways and the year that the movie phenomenon The Secret was released.  Believe it or not I watched it a couple times, I manifested a few parking spots.     Actually looking back seven years later I manifested everything that I had secretly hoped for since I first watched the movie and even before then.

The Secret Behind The Secret As I See It Is:

The universe will bring you what you wish for using the path of least resistance or the easiest way possible.    So keep all thoughts above the boards. 

BONUS SECRET:   If you want to emerge where you currently are in life you have to be grateful and appreciative of where you currently are or else you will never raise above current circumstances. 

Here is to a great remainder of your month.

Until we read again,

Jaxon

How To Miss Your Kids

Divorce is an interesting thing.   You are now mortal enemies with someone you loved dearly (in some cases).   It's even more different if there are children involved.   All of a sudden your children who you were able to see anytime you weren't busy are only available to hang out certain times of the month.

If you,  like me, miss your kids like nothing you have ever experienced when they are not with you what do you do?  You could ask the opposing parent for additional parenting time but if your situation is anything like mine you would have a better chance growing taller overnight.

So what do you do?  You can ask for more parenting time through the courts and you may or may not get it but what do you do during the interim?  Thought you would never ask....

This is what I've done.  My twin daughters are turning six this year and since they turned three I opened an email account for them and I'll write them periodic messages.   This is a way to feel an emotional connection with your children by writing them now in a perceived future.   Make sure you remember the e-mail password and above all else keep it classy.   Divorce is between you and your ex and should have nothing to do with your children.   This email journaling should just be all about you and your child's relationship.

Until we read again,

Jaxon

Water Cooler Intentions

The Road To __________ Is Paved With Intentions

Who doesn't love a little water cooler chatter?   This past Tuesday I overheard two of my colleagues wishing one another a good third quarter.    One of the two was proudly professing how he had a great third quarter in 2013 and that was just a fluke and how this year was going to be terrible.

Fast forward to yesterday.   I was talking to a fellow before a meeting about how his name was in a raffle to win an all expenses paid trip for two to an awesome destination.  The guy proceeded to tell me how he never wins anything so he's not going to hold his breath.  I sincerely and directly told him something along the lines of how his luck is going to change and told him that I would send him some positive winning vibes.

About an hour later my pal ran up to me with the biggest most sincere smile on his face carrying a large novelty ticket.  "I Won, I Won" he exclaimed.   We shared a celebratory moment before proceeding with our day.

Moral of the story is I'm not saying that we can predict the future all I'm saying is that if our intentions may shape our destination why not wish for what we want versus what we don't want?    Try it, you might like it.

Until we read again,

Jaxon

p.s. 

"Your Wish Is My Command"

Congratulations!    You are the proud recipient of a genie's lamp.    Here's the catch.    You don't get three wishes.    You get an infinite number of wishes.    Yes, not pulling your chain, you can ask for whatever you want.    We've all watched programs in the past where people find a genie's lamp, ask for three wishes and get something completely different than what you thought you asked for.    So my advice to you is to ask carefully. 

Let's revisit those genie lamp shows that I just talked about.    Did the wish recipients really get what they asked for or did the genie make a mistake?       Rhetorical question that you can think about for a while.     My stance is that we always get what we ask for. 

So the moral of the story is to ASK CAREFULLY. 

Until we read again, 

Jaxon

The Gap Between Perceived Reality & What You Expect

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I found myself watching one of my favourite movies "Wolf Of Wall Street" for the fourth time earlier today.     The movie is beyond interesting and you know when you watch a movie multiple times you notice different things?    Today I noticed how anger may be caused when the gap between what we expect to happen and what actually happens or perceived reality is farther apart than what we hope for. 

The scene that made me notice this was towards the end of the movie after Jordan got indited and was talking about the details with his wife Naomi aka Duchess in their bedroom.    Jordan had this impression that his wife was going to be supportive while he was serving his prison sentence by staying with him and allowing him contact with his children.      When Naomi asked Jordan for a divorce, told him that she didn't love him and made him aware that she already consulted with an attorney: Jordan started yelling, slapped Naomi, ripped open the couch cushions, started snorting a pile of cocaine (after being clean for some time), punched Naomi in the stomach, woke his daughter Skylar and took her out of her bed, drove through a closing garage door and rammed his car into a wall...............   Arguably he did this all because of the gap between what he expected to happen over the next few years and the fear over what really might happen while he was imprisoned. 

What 'gaps' are currently making you angry?   Can you see where a 'gap' made you upset in your past?   Unfortunately I can and can fortunately see where a future with detached expectations can keep a lot of this useless energy out of our lives. 

What are your thoughts?   Comment below. 

Until we read again, 

Jaxon

Water, Self-Esteem & That Mistake You Made

Beating yourself up over mistakes and judging your every thought\action will bankrupt your self-esteem & make you miserable. 

-- Brenden Dilley: Author

It is said that the body is anywhere from 60% - 75% water.    A lot of discussion has gone on around Dr. Massaru Emoto and his famous water study.    The gist of his experiment is he filled a number of beakers with rice and water and spoke or didn't speak certain words into the different beakers every day for a period of 30 days and then studied the results of the water and rice.    If you are not familiar with this experiment you can do a quick Internet search or you can view a specific study here as it relates to treating children. 

If the findings of this experiment is true how do you think your self-talk is effecting your physical\spiritual body?    Are you constantly berating yourself for being an imperfect person and not being able to go back in time to change something(s) that you did that may have created a better present moment or are you treating yourself more kindly?    Or are you telling yourself, we all make mistakes there are no perfect people in the world?    For all I know what has happened could be the best thing that could have happened to me in order to transform me into the person that I need to become.     As of now the perfect solution for my situation exists and I will learn about it when the time is right. 

Words are things and bring us the results in our lives.   Use your words wisely.   Love yourself and realize that you did what you did, are where you are and focus on getting better and better every day in every way.   This Too Shall Pass

Until we read again, 

Jaxon